You cannot be set in your patterns because your impulse has to vibrate with another impulse. You have to be able to tune and adjust to the rate of that impulse. Life is like a car. You always have a steering wheel, but you just move it a little bit. A little bit, a little bit and keep yourself in the lane. You can’t have a stiff steering wheel. If you lose time in making an adjustment, you pay through the nose.
If a human being does not know how to be a human being, what advantage does he can gain by being human? If you cannot adjust the impulse of your brain, and if you cannot coordinate your impulse of the brain with the signal impulse of the other personality, how are you going to create a relationship? I have always said, “understand.” “Stand under” if you want to live in harmony. Stand under each other. I understand you. You understand me. Stand under me. I stand under you. This is how life goes. Nobody can take advantage of you. Nobody can take advantage of me. People have the right to get into your holes. Block them well. Guard them well. There is no such thing as taking advantage of someone. Who takes advantage of who? There is a saying in Punjabi. “Guard your own house. Don’t call others a thief.”
The moment you feel somebody is taking advantage of you, say, “Brother, tell me how much more advantage you want to take. You already have twenty-five percent. I can’t afford seventy-five percent more.” Deal with it on that level.
They say that the contracts done at night are chewed in the courts to prove we exist. People do things at night. They create love and promises, contracts and stories - the whole thing. Early in the morning, they go before a judge. “Oh, he did this to me.” He’ll say, “No, it is like this.” Then they chew it. Between two there is God. But between three, there is a whole mess. When you two decide something be two. One and one and no more. If you have to go to an attorney later, then go to the attorney first. Why waste time? Why waste energy? Why make your life miserable?
That’s why God gave everybody a special head. It was not a collective head in the center of town where you can put in something, get the wisdom and come back. You are complete by yourself. You are complete in your grace. You are a complete incarnation. Simply you should care to know who you are. There shall never be a problem if you call on yourself. That’s why they say:
Gur bin ghor anDhaar guroo bin samajh na aavai. Gur bin surat na siDh guroo bin mukat na paavai.
Without the Guru, there is utter darkness; without the Guru, understanding does not come. Without the Guru, there is no intuitive awareness or success; without the Guru, there is no liberation. (Siri Guru Granth Sahib, Ang 1399.)
Why? What is a Guru? Does Guru here mean a person? No. The Light, Itself. The One in and with you. The outside is just a guide to help you, and give you the practice to relate to it. The law is very simple. If you are a person’s disciple, you shall end up as a Guru. It is not a question. Angad served Guru Naanak and became Guru Angad. Amar Das served Guru Angad became Guru Amar Das. You have paintings of the ten Gurus. What do they tell you? Each one served the one before. Each one who served got to become one. A person cannot remain a disciple for his entire life. If he does, it means he was never a disciple to begin with. Can any child remain a child? He is going to become an adult.