Excerpt from July 2, 1984. The Excellence of a Woman. Women in Training IX.

by Siri Singh Sahib Bhai Sahib Harbhajan Singh Khalsa Yogiji

Today we are talking about "inverted balance." It is very difficult to understand, yet very easy to act upon. If you understand to act and act to understand, you will enjoy how your life will change this minute.

Inverted balance. As human beings, we have the capacity to project. When we project out, we want to feel free. We want to relate to people. We want to be known. There's a very powerful desire to do everything. Either it is subconscious, conscious or unconscious. There are only three stages to it. But there is always the desire, "I should do this. I should do that. It should be done."

If you have a million dollars, you want to meet somebody with ten million dollars. You want to feel added to. He may not give you anything, but it will take you off your balance.

It is our desire to meet good people, to be with people, to run out and do things. It's our projection. Life has a purpose. There's a passion in life. For that passion we go out and do something. Even those people who die for the cause, who die for a truth, who die for God; who crucify themselves and become martyrs; who become saints, who become high caliber conscious people – even they do this. They want to know one or the other aspect of God. There's a very outgoing desire. This cannot be ended or stopped as long as we live.

Sometimes our body or our mind may not be in a position to carry us. Have you seen people who become so emotional they can't talk? Sometimes our feelings are so powerful that we cry or laugh without control. Our body starts acting automatically. Why is this a human condition? Because the nucleus of our inner self is not in balance.

Whatever your projection outside, it must be balanced inside, too. You are a complete person.

It doesn't matter what you want to do, what you feel or what you are going to do. But along with action, with thinking and with projection, you must have an inverted balance. A balance which, in itself, is so strong, it can stop you if you have to be stopped.

You don't have a desire to stop. You don't want to stop. But sometimes you must stop so that history can record you correctly. Sometimes you must stop so that your consciousness can record you correctly. Sometimes you must stop so that you, within you, must know that you are correct. The law of life is the law of patience.

Don't misunderstand. I am not trying to stop you from doing anything. In the West you enjoy life too much. You can corrupt yourself, and you can start all over again. You have all these attitudes, so there is nothing to limit you. I agree. I have now studied you. What we call corruption, control and messing up life is a normal phenomena in the West. It's a way of life. If I drop Mr. A, I can go with Mr. B. If B won't come through, get some little handicapped C. If that is not possible, I'll try to go to the egomaniac D. If that isn't better maybe I can hook on Mr. E. If that is not possible then I choose between A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K. If that doesn't work L, M, N, 0, P must be around. If that is impossible, let me wait for Q, R, S, T, U, V, W, X, Y, Z.

This is the projectivity of it. It is a continuous process. It is passion, compassion, desire to be, not to be. Therefore, whatever is wrong is not wrong. It creates insensitivity. The momentary reaction which you have to things, and the reaction things have to you - it is not a matter of feeling at all. There is no sanctity. There's no dignity. There's no power to sacrifice.

Actually, to be very frank, the Western woman has been put through such a hassle that she has no sense of belonging. She belongs to money. She belongs to children. She belongs to the home. She belongs to the husband. She belongs as a wife. Actually this is all shallow because she belongs for the time being.

Love is for the time being. Love is a very temporary thing here. I have studied it very consciously, keeping myself beyond me, looking at it. In the morning it is a hot, boiling love of passion. In the afternoon it is a subzero north pole temperature. You can't figure out what happened between the two. Today, “I am sacrificing for you.” Tomorrow, “My knife is in your stomach.” You can't understand it. Why can’t you understand it? There is something missing in the criteria, and that is inverted balance.

Whatever your projection outside, it must be balanced inside, too. You are a complete person. You have ribs. You have hands. You have legs. You have toes. You have thumbs. You have whatever you have. It is a totality of you. Therefore, exactly the way the outside is you, the inside is also you. There are three things on the outside that you must do: --receive, achieve, or lose. You can lose or you can gain, but you have to balance it with your inside.

The problem is, if you cannot balance the inside with what is outside and if you cannot balance the outside with what is inside, you are out of balance. That's the pain of every life. There's no such thing as pain in life. You are not handicapped. You are not unintelligent. You are not a duffer. You are not dumb. All that is just a human lie.

When things are out of balance, you have to lie. What is a lie? A temporary truthful statement made under the pressure of time to not get caught. Well, that's a lie. What is a lie? Somebody says, "Where were you?"

"Oh, I was sleeping in the back room."

"I went there, you were not there."

"Oh yeah, you went there ... Oh yeah, yeah. I just got up and went to the bathroom."

"I went to the bathroom. You were not there."

"You must have missed me."

"How can I miss you? There was one bathroom. I went to the other room and then I went to my room."